Online Dating

Dating Dilemma: To App Date or Not

“I want to meet someone organically,” you may say. But meeting someone in line at the grocery store or the picturesque park mostly happens on the Hallmark Channel.

You CAN meet your potential partner on the ski slopes like one of my girlfriends did — cute guy talked with her, caught up with her later that day with a hand-written, heartfelt card and exotic chocolate! Then a month later, he flew across country to meet her on her turf and explore the relationship further.

But let’s be real. This isn’t entirely a Hallmark world and even there the most loving relationships often start out online.

Outside the rare, romantic meeting such as my friends, dating apps are the most convenient and easiest way to meet your potential partner.

Dating online is exploration. Kind, simple exploration like browsing an extensive travel brochure. You don’t have to pack just yet, or even buy the ticket. You do have to know what kind of vacation/relationship you want. You do have to express your desires and lifestyle in words and pictures.

I feel you cringing! I do. I just joined an online dating community several months ago and had so many prospects that it was initially a full-time job to respond. I was “liking” everyone who had a decent profile pic and who seemed like a good guy. That is when I realized that unless I wanted to spend hours perusing the crowd of prospects instead of hitting yoga or other pleasures, I needed a strategy to sift through the ones who weren’t a good fit for me or what I want in a relationship.

I streamlined the weeding-through process and reduced my time spent to 15 minutes a day. I’ve met many men who are compatible and embody the attributes and interests that I feel are important both individually and in a relationship.

So, you say you do know what you want, but how do you know that he/she REALLY wants the type of relationship you do? You don’t. But pretending that you want a Short-term Relationship (STR) when you are looking for a life partner is counterproductive to getting the relationship you do want.

I will help you to interpret what the candidate is saying even when they aren’t actually saying it. I’ll help you express your desires, hopes and dreams as well as your preferences that arise in everyday life conversations about home, health and happiness in an authentic, easy flowing kind of way.

You will learn how to truly express your feeling when you are in sync with your partner and when you aren’t. You will learn to share how you feel in a non-accusatory way that keeps the lines of communication open and accepting.

So take heart! There are tons of amazing, interesting, single folks out there just like you who want a connection and aren’t quite sure how to go about it. Their last date may have been twenty years ago and wasn’t more complicated than asking the local gal or guy to dinner at the local diner. That’s okay.

Simple is good! There are many people who want to keep it simple, but the PROCESS of dating seems complicated. It doesn’t have to be.

I can’t wait to share with you what changed everything for me and made it fun!

I made it a game. Games have RULES! Let’s roll the dice.

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Dig for Online Dating Gold

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Tip 1: Is their profile picture attractive and current?

If they can’t make time to create a profile to potentially find the partner of their dreams, they aren’t going to make a relationship with you a priority either. Click next option!

Tip 2: Did they give a clear glimpse into their lifestyle and what they want in a relationship they provide in text or audio?

If they are “finding my relationship type,” swipe left.

Tip 3: Intuition is involved. Yes, you have it.

Look at their pic — preferably into their eyes. Imagine them sitting beside you on a park bench. Do you feel a connection? Is it romantic or friendly?

Tip 4: Friendships can lead to intimate relationships.

If you can’t imagine this person doing intimate things with you and you have more friends than a goose has gobbles, click next option.

Communication on and off the app

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1. Do they respond within a few days and are they keeping up their end of the conversation? If not and there isn’t a plausible explanation, skip!

2. If the chat is offensive, demanding, overly assertive or sexually suggestive, tell them how you feel. You might say, “We’re still getting to know each other and I’d like to postpone that topic.” Or “For me, mutual respect is crucial in a relationship.” If they don’t correct the behavior immediately, Click next option!

3. If you enjoy the chatting on the app and feeling comfortable, you can provide your cell number. Set a time to call with or without video on. Notice how you feel when you hear their voice. If it is irritating as sandpaper on your eardrum, there’s a reason. The Universe is speaking and saying, “Not this one, hon.”